To My Men Out There Lets Make This Clear

Disgusting Quote of the day:

“If I aint fu*kin a chick, I aint obligated to buy you nothing. Not even a value meal from BK.”

First things first, you have a mother… you’re not sexing her so how do men forget the logic in treating and respecting a lady the way you would expect a man to treat her. Men please learn and don’t forget your role. I take care of me but are you saying I’m gonna need to give you some in order to expect a good time or to eat something?? What in the hell are you thinking?

But let me get this straight. It’s not about money, I cud have hundreds of dollars on me and still don’t mind if your attempting to put out for me. Whether it is food or an outing. I am a woman. Play your part homie. Too many dudes are soo selfish in their ways—Men act like bitches. Point blank period.. The self-centered nagging complaining females – must be the new man. Because that’s all I come across—selfish, complaining men like someone owes them something. Ladies don’t settle, as long as we continue to settle, they will continue to treat us the way they do.

The following clip is two guys sarcastically but realistically speaking on how Men in general expect and want us to be. Sense the sarcasm but understand the Truth behind what dudes really hav in mind.

GUYS: YOU GOT TO DO BETTER!!

Oh my goodness…another day in the life---court drama going on--- headaches come and go—all the while Be mommy and pretend everything is okay!! That’s my typical day.

So my talk of today is why in the world women have let men get away with doing absolutely nothing- okay  not all men but I didn’t get  the memo the today’s modern man is lazy and they do whatever is minimal to achieve some sort of temporary happiness.

In the last two days I randomly have gotten questions asked about my dating life—I’m new to a job, my friends are nosey, or someone trying to hook up the single mommy. *blank Stare

I want to give up already.

One guy tells me he has the PERFECT date idea for me and the kids- in his exact words - “We can take the kids out to Chuck E Cheese and then go for a movie” -------------- Now am I wrong for literally LMAO out how he made it seem as if I’ve never taken my kids to the ((insert sarcasm here)) OH SO AMAZING CHUCK E. CHEESE and gone to watch a movie.

Then another dude says heyy well let me take you downtown to Mango’s Restaurant. It’s a cool spot with a live band and I would love to show you a good time. ---- Now okay, not so bad right? Well, issue is I’ve been plenty of times, was engaged there with my ex. And my close friend works there. Ehh, guess it’s not his fault I am not too interested in going.

Last but not least, this guy at work. Cool guy—but he is young. He has been trying for the past two weeks to take me out but let me further explain on why it hasn’t happened.  He sends me a message randomly at 8 or 9 to tell me he wants to hang out. First off, if we aren’t close, I don’t “Hang”. And how rude of you to let me know that late in the day you want go somewhere. After declining because of the time this was his response:

And I quote: “I kinda like you, but I feel like I’m trying for no reason so ima fall back I don’t wanna waste your time as well as mine..I feel like you’re not interested.. I feel like I have to bend over backwards for attention from you and I’m not that kinda guy”

This was my response and brings me to the conclusion and Moral of the day:

“BEND OVER BACKWARDS? LOL You haven’t done anything? I’m sorry to be rude but you haven’t done anything requiring more attention than your getting. You don’t call or text me until you ready to make a move and just for FURTHER IMFORMATION—I like guys who bend over backwards for my attention. I am worthy of it; if you can’t handle the pressure before you’ve actually done anything, be my guest, find someone easier. :-) ”

Ladies don’t let these dudes be slackers- it is what it is. Learn your self worth.

–Signed,

Still Single

Relationship + Child = Complications ... Doesn’t always have to be that way

If being young and in a relationship isn’t complicated enough then imagine adding a baby in the equation? A relationship alone is never easy; including a baby in the mix can turn it into total and complete chaos. In all honesty having a baby can either make or break a relationship. However, never think having his baby will make him stay or love you more, because if a man really wants to be with his girl he would be with her, baby or no baby. Once the decision is made to keep the baby ladies understand that that man will be in your life forever whether you guys are together or not, whether he decides to move on or not, whether he decides to participant in the child’s life or not, he will always have some type of role in your life forever. You have men that will be happy when they find out their girl is pregnant be with them through the whole pregnancy then when the baby comes all the responsibilities are left on the girl, which creates lots of arguments, frustrations, aggravations, and  eventually hatred. Or you have men that disappear the moment they found out their girl is pregnant, they are considered cowards and punks that don’t know how to step up to the plate when needed and the love was never really there, in the relationship, on their part.  Then you have men that’s there by their girl side the moment he finds out she’s pregnant. He’s there through the pregnancy and active in the baby life. He’s a good father and good boyfriend, but trying to maintain the relationship while caring for a baby can def put a strain on both parties. Not all relationships are complicated with a baby.  Sometimes a relationship + child = success and can work. I’m not saying success in a sense of perfection, but success in the sense that both parties are willing/trying to make their relationship work. No relationship is ever perfect, but in order to make it work both of you guys has to really want it.  Here are some tips on trying to make a relationship work with a child involve:

·         Both parties have to be equally active in the child life.  Caring for the child should not solely be left on one parent. There has to be a balance.

·         Make some “ME” time. Take time for yourself away from your girl, away from your man. Go shopping, get a mani/pedi, hang with your girls etc. Fellas play your video games; hang with your boys, etc.

·         Have family time. Mommy, Daddy, and baby. Go out to eat, movies, etc.

·         Communicate. If there’s a disagreement on how to raise, punish, dress, feed the child, etc., talk about it, give reasons, compromise/come to an agreement. Never argue in front of the child.

·         Be faith ßthat’s with any relationship! But your family should always be your #1 priority, because when you cheat it’s not just on your girl/man, your child too. It will affect your whole little family!

·         Leave your baby with their grandparents and have Mommy and Daddy time! Keep your relationship going, keep it exciting. Go out on dates and do fun things together  ;- )

·         Have future plans involving each other.  Set goals and accomplish them together. Encourage each other.

·         Go to church and pray together. Like they say “A Family That Prays Together Stays Together”

·         Understand that there will be hard times. No relationship is easy. Don’t argue and blame each other, it only makes the situation worst. Support and believe in one another. Work harder to make it through. It will create a stronger relationship and show signs of maturity

These are some of the things I’ve learned from experience that helped my relationship grow even more after the birth of my son. It has to take both parties to really want the relationship in order for it to succeed. So mothers out there that are struggling to make things work with their baby’s father or boyfriend try these tips, it worked for meJ. And young ladies that doesn’t have kids I encourage you to wait until you’re married it’s so much easier lol, but if that’s not the case make sure you found a guy that you can see a future with that you know will be a great father. Great fathers are hard to find, so admiration goes out to all the great fathers out there that’s actively present in their child’s life! Hope this was helpful! 

-Yours truly Beyanka

What makes a woman beautiful? The Validation of a Man’s Word?

           The media (whether it be print, radio, television, etc.) constantly tell us how we should look, think or act towards men. Women's magazines (Cosmopolitan, Elle, Ebony, Essence, Latina, etc.) include little guides on how to keep a man, please a man, etc. But take a look into a men's magazine...what do you see? It could be cars, naked females, issues about the economy....naked females.....but never guides on how to keep a woman or how to please one. Why?? We as women have a tendency to live for our man. There are females who put their whole life on pause just for their current boyfriend or even worse, a guy she JUST met.

A lot of females forget their goals, aspirations, dreams, friends, almost everything when she is with her man. But what happens when it doesn't work out? Is the man at fault, when he never asked for you to change your life or is it you, who voluntarily changed your whole life up for him? On the other hand that man most likely continued his daily life and routine with or without his female by his side. The media never tried to manipulate or mold a man into living his life for a woman. There are also movies when a man comes and rescues a woman out of her financial burden, get married….bla bla bla or a woman is depressed. Nothing can make her happy and BAM! A man shows up, GIVES her happiness and they live happily ever after (another example could be the entire Disney princess movie collection if you take a close look).

Since when do we as HUMANS in general need another person to make us happy, especially the presence of a man? Women even take extreme measures and go under the knife to look beautiful....for a man...not themselves. Basically you get the picture. Don't let the media fool you into what you should look like, act like or do just for a man. Live YOUR own life, make time for yourself, friends, family AND your man. It is not impossible. We have all been given separate lives so we can aspire to be whatever we want to be in this world, don't let the presence of another man take that away from you. If the man truly loved you he would definitely want you to have your own success and happiness outside of the relationship as well as inside the relationship.



Truly Yours,

QPL

Comedy or Reality?

Hey everyone!! Its only Saturday and yesterday I attended Zo's Comedy Jam..if you aren't aware Zo's Summer Groove is held every year in South Florida with a series of events in to raise funds for his charity. With that being said, last night I had a ball!! Great seats ...okay so Chris Bosh came in with his lovely wife Adrienne. And within moments you couldn't resist seeing the glare in dark from their FABULOUS wedding bands. So I don't know what the media knows but they damn sure are married. Cute newlywed love. Feeding each other nachos..blah* So we'll see if she may be on the next series of Basketball Wives. An actual wife to add to the cast!!!

So the lineup was great last night- Malik S., Nema Williams, Capone, Roz G, Marvin Dixon, & Smokey Suarez ----noooo Kevin Hart wasn't there--but trust me. Although i enjoy him myself, there is much more to comedy than him. It was all hosted by  D.L. Hughley and the special guest was Dave Chappelle. Now I love Chappelle. Anyone should know this man is a comedic genius. He has been very low key for the past few years after quitting his HIT show, "The Chappelle Show". He is said to do tours and television again, but after last nights wake up call; It may just hinder his comeback. Needless to say check this post from TMZ last night so you can get an idea of what happened! http://www.tmz.com/2011/07/23/dave-chappelle-comedy-video-stand-up-alonzo-mourning-charity-event-florida/  During the show he responded to text messages and Lit up on stage.

After the show, of course there are the Hardrock after parties and so forth--ehh, I'm not much of a party person needless to say, so i grabbed a glass of champagne and made my way back to the car. On the way to valet, I was approached by Mr Anthony Anderson and had the funniest two minute conversation. And parted ways. I appreciate these moments in life. Just gives reasoning on why I do what I do.  Hence why this post is titled Comedy or Reality? My life is comedy. And it is very Real.

I have a post coming up later tonight for men and women alike!! Tune in at 7PM. I love you all. Thank you for the support<3

-Signed-
Miss Angel Davenport